A drop in the bucket...

"No individual raindrop ever considers itself responsible for the flood"  ~Unknown

Each small frustration builds, each stresser adds another gallon to your load, until finally you can't hold it anymore....same analogy for the one thing that so many of us suffer.  I recently fell into my own stress trap, I take so many things so personal, I try to control issues out of my control; and guess what, I FAIL!   It took 3 people very close to me to see what I was doing, and what I came away with was COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY!  Well, duh, I knew that but obviously needed a reminder.

I can't control everything, and what I can't control I have the control not to let hinder my relationships.  I can be a sounding board for a friend without taking on the emotional burdens, even when I feel bad for them and the situation.  I can listen, I can give opinions and try to make them smile, but that is all I can do.

When I am frustrated with something it is my JOB to speak up, no one can read my mind, so they can't help me fix something that they are unaware is broken.  It is my responsibility to me and those I care about to not get to the point of flooding my emotions haphazardly.

Also, in letting open communication flow I am finding a great freedom in my love relationship.  In being honest about my wants, needs, desires, fantasies, fears, stressers, etc.  I am building trust and freedom with my partner.  A closer bond is forged with every trial we make it through.  I now feel more loved than ever because my partner knows that much more about me and strives for my happiness, knowing what I desire.  And the reciprocation is tenfold.

It brings me great pleasure to know that when I step out of line with my Dominant partner that he will lovingly and sternly adjust my attitude.  A spanking, an orgasm denial, a small public humiliation; he knows how to touch parts of me that can only be first hit via a psychological connection, then emotional and lastly physical.  I am now more willing to try and remember his advice and to communicate, as I have nothing to lose but the struggle of trying to go it alone.

~Puddles~